LFL, after thinking about it I'm fairly certain all my grand theories only work because things are going my way, and blackfoot's equally grand ones only work because he's not currently married with kids.
In your sitch I'd be pacing around the circle with an even more bewildered look, not knowing which way to turn.
Since we've established (and pretty much all agree) that his leaving is a big problem I do think .... was it oldtimer's? question is worth pondering as well. Healthy young men do tend to physiologically want sex every few days at least. Question is what they do with that impulse. Suppress? Ignore? Turn to porn? Masturbate? What? Do you know what your h does with his?
