I don't know... I don't know... yes and no, I think. I'm thinking on the motivations of females who no longer have the need to pair bond in order to reproduce, or even for 'protection.' The traditional motivations are no longer in play. For example, with me... I was getting upset with xBF because of his 'playing house' behaviors. NOP pointed out to me that men typically do not buy the cow when they are getting the milk for free.
I think it's complicated because even though you might not need something for practical reasons you still might need it for psychological reasons. If the deep psychological reason that women want to pair-bond is to facilitate baby-raising then does there have to be something that is the "baby" in order to want to pair-bond? I think that might be the case but that there might be healthy ways to achieve that. For instance, a shared political cause could be the baby or a shared love for gardening could be the baby or a shared desire to have a warm and inviting home for friends and relatives to visit could be the baby.
OTOH, there's still sex. There too I think you can't act in denial of basic physiological/psychological factors. For instance, I think of "protection" as being something that bridges the gap between the St.Bernard and the Wolf. I absolutely trusted GP in the "follow into the dark alley" sense because I had no doubt that he would smush any spider that came along without hesitation and, frankly, I found that rather erotic. Unfortunately, there were other ways in which I did not trust him.
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But hurry up, would you? I need to discuss and mull over what 'drives' the older woman.
Well, rumor has it that the older man is just looking for a nurse or a purse so I think we're bumming.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
