OK, haven't posted for a while and there's a good reason. I f#$%£"$ up. I know you will all laugh that Pamar, after dishing out the advice, peeked, but I did.
Had a great weekend, with a night out on Saturday. Lazy morning in bed beginning to get intimate, when I went to make a cup of tea - checked her phone - message from OP (his name).
I didn't go as far as to read it, but I did take the phone upstairs and threw it on the bed. Loooong conversation after that; still EA going on (apparently he finished it at one point) and she still wants to be happy.) I didn't want to know any more and we discussed various things on and off during the day.
The following day I apologised for invading her privacy and stated that I would not do that again. She also apologised and stated that she should respect me more. So, just before Christmas it seems that we are back to square one.
Maybe I was wrong in reading the signs, new carpets, new kitchen appliances. I really don't know where to go from here - we are both being friendly, sleeping together and intimate, but I seem to be waiting for the big goodbye.
I touch her, cuddle her in bed and give her compliments; and will continue to do so. She stated that the only reason she hasn't gone (or even seen him since May) is the children, so I am counting them as a blessing.
Maybe I should cut loose (I certainly don't want to) or again, just bide my time and continue to ignore (she does keep it well away from me and our house).
All support and advice would be gratefully received. I have been in this situation for 9 months now and I would love to know how long to take this for; patience, patience, patience.
At the moment, my w cannot see past January, so it is building a pressure in me, that is maybe why I peeked - no more of that, it seems that I was the only one that suffered.
