ok guys...here is the big question. I do not believe this sitch can wait until I come from deployment. She has already moved out to other side of state, kids are in place, she has a job (i.e. no need for my money), her own car (don't get me started on this one), own apartment and all that.

She is independent so outside of me (ILYBNILWY)and our marriage (she says I am dead to her) what is left? I guess it will just be the fact that her dad would be immensely disappointed in her...sad thing is he is dead and will not be able to tell her?

How can I still bring her back from the brink but tell her she needs to stop turning to OM for emotional support and turn to me when we have a hard time getting through to each other on the phone?

mcol
Me: 34 Deployed
W:32 (EA started Oct 07)
S:8
D:3
S:18 mos
ILYBNILWY-12/14/07
Request for backdated separation 12/14/07
Top areas to work:
1) Communication
2) Repairing me, focusing on me