I'm sorry Mark if I came on too strong. I was really beat up last night about my friend and your comment just made me flip.
What I wrote was the first thing I thought about when I woke up this morning - so I guess I knew I'd over reacted - sorry.
I guess a more temperate view would be that most of us crave security if we can have it, but not all of us do it the same way and it means different things to dufferent people. For a lot of us integrity goes hand in hand with it - I guess we wouldn't be here otherwise. If your wife were THAT unhappy I think she would make the bid for the 'escape' you mentioned she wanted before. She doesn't so things can't be 'that bad' for her. Pity she can't work on improving things because everyone in the family would benefit.
My friend tried that for years and just kept getting knocked back. I guess I was having one of those 'Life's too short to.....' days yesterday.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
