Make him feel good. Tell him that you love him and that you are sorry that you came between he and his daughter. Ask him how you can help him with Andrea.
Thank you, Fish. I would love to, but I don't think it would help if I asked how I could help with his daughter. That's how I got into this mess to begin with. I "helped" too much, did nice things for her, bought her nice things that weren't appreciated, and naturally, I would get mad when she would start acting like an ungrateful brat.
Plus, for some reason, her dad would encourage her to "stand up to me". H would tell me, "Nobody asked you to buy her this, or take her there.....". Yet, I'm sure that if I never did anything nice, I would be the bad guy anyway. It is a no-win to be a step-parent. It really, really sucks.
And to me, she really is the teen from hell. She ran away and accused her dad of being abusive to her and he is anything but. He is a good dad who always paid his child support when she lived out of state with her mom, took her on great vacations every summer, bought her whatever she or her mom asked for at Christmas and birthdays.
She would act out in ways that were really embarrassing too. For example, she would lie about me to her dad all the time, steal money from my purse, steal money from my family, steal money from her cousin, etc. It was really hard for me to like her at all.
I tried not to make too big a deal about it because she's ADD, possibly clinically depressed too, and every other excuse we've heard from C's.
Anyway, I am glad of one thing right now, and that is that she is his problem right now, not mine!
