Wow. This seems to me to be the 'hippopotamus in room,' then. Once you figure this out, I don't think you'll ever have to worry again about breaking your own rules.
Thanks for the hug. Actually, I think that once I figure this out I won't even have to make up a bunch of rules for myself. The strong lioness pretty much just goes out and gets what she wants. She's in charge of contracts but there is no need to make a contract with yourself if you trust your own judgment. If the lioness did abide by rules for sexuality they would be less along the arbitrary societal-enforced lines of "Don't have sex on the first date." and more along the lines of "Consider why you are having sex with a man if you wouldn't lend him $1000." or "Consider why you are having sex with a man if you wouldn't follow into a dark alley if he said it was safe."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
