W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

I'm still coming to terms with the fact the my under laying marriage problems could be what they are, well its just second hand info at the moment, but I'm gonna ignore my ramblings in my previous post and get this DB train back on track. Yes, I'm at test and monitor stage. I need to push on with this because W doesn't always respond to things as we would expect and I'm picking up that she wants me to take the lead in some things.


GAL, I was out Christmas shopping on my own for the first time in years, I had money to spend and found it a good experience. W called me on the cell and told me to bring my own food home as she hadn't time to cook, and I just remembered this from Pudmuddle Snafoo

There are very subtle ways of showing a woman you care...Maybe if she likes coffee or a fave drink bring her one 'just because'.

I told W I would bring home some Thai style special fried rice from "our" favorite store W seemed very pleased with this. She even commented that it was naughty eating this food, so I just said the diet starts Jan 1.

Note: I've picked up from W that she mistook my LRT & acting "as if" as me note caring so despite, all of her cheating I'm the one who has to show he cares. (Caring points scored).

Ok Christmas day ahead, W dropped a sutble hint that we would need new bedding for the small bed when IL's stay over at xmas, I thought it strange at first, but then I relised that last year D6 & MIL slept in one room, FIL in the small bed that I have now and me and W in our bed. So possibilities of me and W sharing a bed soon, I'll keep you posted on that one.

Thoughts of OM still being in the background pop into my head and I have to fight this massive urge to snoop on W cell phone, but then I remember this from Pudmuddle Snafoo

It doesn't matter what you learn about OM. Hard to hear, but it doesn't. She is testing the waters on both sides to see who will come out fighting. Be the calm, cool, sexy, attractive one that she will feel better around and want to come back to. Let her live this fantasy journey and try to act as if it doesn't affect you, at all.

I think W lived the fantasy for a couple of months while I was out of the house and the last encounter with OM brought home the reality of it all. Cool calm and sexy is what I'm projecting and I think she sees it.


DB train roll on.

PS: It's good not to have to comment on W anger