That is so true. My wife is very vain, and greatly struggles with aging. Having a 29yo boyfriend who totally validated her, and told her constantly how hot she was, felt good to her, understandably. But it wasn't real. What she had in our marriage, with me, was a real love, and that's what I told her. I waited over two months before I said this part of it, because I was told you're NOT supposed to put down OM with insults, as it would only make her defend him. But after two months I couldn't hold back any longer, and I looked her in the eye and said "_______ , look at me. I want you to remember this moment -- this date -- even if we don't make it. ______, he's only in it for the sex. His love for you isn't real. I know it feels good, but it's not real. My love for you is real, and it's respectful, and it will be there when you're 50, and when you go thru menopause, and when you're 60 and 70 and 80."
