I see your point. So, do you think could you say that somehow the restrictions back then and endurances imposed were needed acts in those days to teach morals and ethics, to put focus in the soul in a society that what counted most was survival?
My mom always says that we should not take freedom for libertinity (I don't know if the last is the right word in English, hope you understand the meaning)so I agree we are missing some understanding of the importance of family and why our primary emotional choice is to marry not just mate?