Pieces are Coming Together

[Torchbearer]

Mmmm . . . massages. I have the most wonderful co-workers a person could ask for. Back when I announced to my department that H had left me and I was going through a really rough time they got me a really nice card and a gift certificate for a massage. Ahhhhh. I told them I was going to wait until my finals were done so that I could really relax. That night was tonight. It was so good and my H is so stressed at work that I bought him a gift certificate tonight. It's not for Christmas or any particular reason other than I know that work has really been stressing him out. To sum up how work has been going for him I got an email with the subject line of "Blarg" today.

I have been working very hard at validating him in his position, understanding his frustration and making sure that I don't add any more to it in his personal life. I've been listening and not criticizing or suggesting things he could do instead. I've been just trying really hard to listen and validate his feelings. So, that is why I decided he deserves a massage too. Now I'm all relaxed and enjoying a nice glass of adult beverage. It's quite blissful.

In the meanwhile H is on call for work and had to take a call while he was talking with me (we're still S). He wasn't real thrilled. He's been fighting computer issues at home and thinks he may have to break down and buy a new one. He wasn't quite ready to do that, but it would beat having to troubleshoot issues every night instead of just being able to, I dunno, use it. Anyway. My stress has abated and now I'm trying to be patient with his. I am so looking forward to our time together next week. We're both taking off work and doing nothing - and as I've told friends - I will be relishing in doing nothing.

I'm feeling at peace tonight.