GGG- What it means to me.

[MJontheMend]

I understand. My wolf sees them all as bunnies. All.

Nope. Your St.Bernard sees them as bunnies. The wolf would just see them as meat.

Women are very good at making you feel bad for 'hurting their feelings'. Its MANIPULATION.
Dont fall for it.
Her feelings are VERY resiliant. I recommend you test out how resiliant they are. If her crying controls you, your done. If her anger controls you, your done.

I can honestly tell you that I never once felt like I was trying to control my 2bx by crying. I felt more like he was trying to control me by making me cry. I felt like for some sick reason he wanted me to cry. I couldn't understand why he would frequently have sex with me only after he made me cry. It seemed to me that he wanted me to be weak in order to be appealing or less threatening or something like that. But maybe the opposite was true because it might be that what really happened was that he would have sex with me right when I stopped crying and started to feel sort of angry and tough because he had hurt my bunny. But I definitely didn't consciously feel like his decision to be sexual at that point was a result of him being "controlled" by my anger. Maybe if I had I would have seen his behavior as placating but I wasn't conscious of being angry enough to process it that way.

However, me telling LFL to "woman up" will not communicate that either. RHW thought it was appropriate to say to the new guy here who is going thru an A. I didnt see any men tell him to go get what he needs somewhere else or move on of dump that B!tch, or anything like that. I see women do it A L L THE T I M E.

Hey, I'm the inventress of the Sisters Of Mercy Sex van.

I think thats just a ruse to get a man to show some softness, so you can kick the puppy and see if its wolf inside (reassuring) or if its really puppy. (icky) But I am willing to listen and ponder.

In a way, I actually fear encountering the puppy dog in a man because I feel like the puppy dog is what will bind me to a man and render me defenseless because I become all cow and no lioness. I can't do anything to hurt a man to the extent that I see him as puppy dog. Then too much of my cow energy goes to protecting his puppy dog and my bunny is left to fend for herself. If a guy stays all wolf then I can have sex with him without my cow falling in love. The thing I've found to be true is that many men don't want you to discover their puppy dog because they don't want to view you viewing them as weak or vulnerable. Okay, that's not really true. What I mean is that all men really do want to have their puppy dog cared for but then sometimes they feel self-disgust or something like that for giving in to that emotion. One of the reasons I get so defensive if somebody implies that I am a "slut" is that I am so cow that men frequently become very puppy dog around me in a sexual context and so I feel like I did something caring by being sexual. I am only semi-joking when I say that I am the woman most likely to get hit on by a slit-eyed leather-wearing hard*ss in a biker bar and end up with him telling me about his terrible FOO with tears in his eyes and then falling asleep with his head on my breasts. In my experience, that kind of thing doesn't turn ME off and cause me to kick the puppy but it causes the guy to be like "WTF have I done?" and throw his Wolf suit back on pronto. I'm not doing anybody any favors if I act too cow because, like you said, men can't sexually function from puppy dog and most men do want to sexually function.

oh... when you respondedc crankily to me in the post where you said CLUE IN, that was a woman. much more attractive then a weak bunny. I liked it. I may or may not agree with what you said, but I can respect it.

Well, now that I got bunny feeling pretty strong, my next mission clearly is to work on lioness. My sister is definitely of the opinion that the way in which my marriage dysfunctioned caused me to repress that part of my personality or vice versa. I'll tell you a little secret. When I was a girl, I used to beat up the boys who picked on my little sisters. I felt like it was my job as the oldest. The weak dysfunctional lioness or wolf is a sadist or a bully. The strong functional lioness or wolf is a hunter or a beater up of bullies, I guess- lol. So, I'm glad that you pointed out to me that I was manifesting that part of my personality a bit in reaction to what I saw as you bullying my little sister LFL a bit. My real sister said to me recently "What happened to all that righteous anger you used to have?" It's interesting to me that you saw that as attractive. It's also related to the reason why GP saw me as a bit of an attractive "mafia wife" when I showed that side to him.

I believe that you would like to see more puppy from me, because its always the dichotomy that gets womens interest (peoples?)

All I'm saying is that if you ignore your puppy dog, you won't kill it you'll just make it weak. Of course, it's the dichotomy that gets women's interest. It's the dichotomy that gets men's interest too. The velvet fist or the kitten with sharp claws. It's all the same. The velvet nerf ball is kind of boring and redundant kind of like the bunny in a car seat. Of course, the monkey in a car seat is just a whiny PITA but if you put the wolf in a car seat he becomes a puppy dog and if you put the lioness in the car seat she becomes a declawed kitten or a bunny. Clearly , I need to make a chart for all the possibilities.