Im not responsible for how she responds to me. I am responsible for adjusting myself if I get a response I dont like.
K. I get that. It sounds to me like you are stating a truth... at least YOUR truth.
No this is not my Truth. That is the Truth we have been taught by Schnarch, DB, DR, Etc. do you differ?
I used to take responsibility for many many actions that were not mine to own, because I expected myself to be.. faster, impervious, stronger, more observant, blah blah blah. Ive been rewarded many ways for doing just that in OP perspective.
Now I just accept that I am human.
You aren't responsible for dictating how LFL NEEDS to act.
you are absolutely correct. If LFL doesnt want to hear from me on what I think will work for her R, she can say so. I dont need to argue with you about how my post to her made you feel.
You aren't responsible IF LFL chooses to run with scissors near a pool, nor nailing her with a nerf football so she doesn't hurt herself. (And why you think she is doing so in unawareness, just as a toddler does, and even comparing her as such, is simply beyond me).
This was not my analogy. This was an analogy offered and accepted by her. My advice was actually stop acting like a toddler.
IRL, If a grown up runs near the pool with scissors, Im just going to watch, and if they hurt themself call someone to deal w/it. I used to get in there and help/fix, but its not worth the risk of BBP to me anymore. x also criticized me for helping people broke down on the side of the road/in MC wrecks/car wrecks/out of gas/stuck in mud/ FITB. I understand. its not a demonstration of self protective wellbeing.
Yet... you judge, take exception AND responsibility for others when they are not acting in what you consider to be their own best interests, as illustrated by your toddler/nerf football snippet in Quote II above.
If the woman LFL doesnt wish to take my advice, its not going to affect me. there is no responsiblity there. I consider her a friend, so I speak my opinion.
In the case of the toddler, I do make a judgement. listeing to the toddler cry after I fish them out of the pool, unhurt, unscathed, but upset, or not doing what is in my power to prevent what could be serious injury.
I spoke like a man. She responded like a weak bunny. These are not my judgements, these are the observations of her fellow females.
