rob1231, I would love to hear a little more about that book. Can you give me a little insight? Thanks!
I think 5LL should be Required Reading for anyone here. Basically, it tells that there are five different ways of giving and receiving love. Each person has their favorite - the one or maybe two ways that THEY want to be shown they are cared about. The problem is that we all tend to assume that the way WE want to be loved is the way that others want us to love THEM - and that is usually a mistake (because, hey, we've got something like a one-in-five chance of pairing up with someone with the same Love Language.)
For example, my primary LL is Touch. My W's primary LL is Acts of Service. So, maybe I'll try to show I love her by getting all cuddly - and she'll be thinking "He didn't pick up the house AGAIN and that makes me feel like doesn't even care about me."
The book is about learning to recognize those differences and how to "speak" the other person's LL - and how to communicate to them about the way to your own heart through your LL.
I and many others on the boards have found the simple insights in this book to be incredibly valuable. I hope you do too!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
