I dont see what was dysfunctional about my first post. Ive reread it several times and dont see any disrespect.
Here's what I see. Quote I:
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Im not responsible for how she responds to me. I am responsible for adjusting myself if I get a response I dont like.
K. I get that. It sounds to me like you are stating a truth... at least YOUR truth.
Yet you say, Quote II:
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I dont think LFL has a problem with 'girling up', and fixing her hair/nails/shopping. I think LFL needs to be a woman in charge of herself, and find what/why/when she respects her H, and let him KNOW. It gets very tiring chasing toddlers with scisors/drinking glasses.(not to mention dangerous for the toddler, they always fall as soon as you chase them). I just pick up a (nerf) football and bean em in the head and knock em into the pool. [insert gasps of indignation here] And I am totally- completely -actual life done that -serious.
Its better then taking them to the ER with lacerations and puntured thoracic cavities.
Here is the disrespect I see. You aren't responsible for dictating how LFL NEEDS to act. You aren't responsible IF LFL chooses to run with scissors near a pool, nor nailing her with a nerf football so she doesn't hurt herself. (And why you think she is doing so in unawareness, just as a toddler does, and even comparing her as such, is simply beyond me).
Quote II is nowhere consistent with your Quote I above.
So... to me... it sounds like you are saying that no one should judge you or fault you or take exception to your remarks, and if they do... that's not your problem. (And I see truth in that, quote I).
Yet... you judge, take exception AND responsibility for others when they are not acting in what you consider to be their own best interests, as illustrated by your toddler/nerf football snippet in Quote II above.
Hypocritical? I dunno. That's just what I'm seeing. Doesn't mean I am correct.
