GGG- What it means to me.

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Mo:

You're spot on in terms of the cow and the lioness but you gotta remember that my bunny and my monkey were actually in far worse shape when I was married.

I don't think your bunny and your monkey wants/needs are any different now than they were with 2bx. I think it may be that the absence of what BUNKY wants/needs is more profound to you because you aren't so busy 'protecting' yourself and surviving PAL. I mean, at least your 2bx kept the lioness and cow busy, if nothing else.

Also, I don't think that the men that I've dated have been any more "insincere" than me. I think that they've all given me pretty much exactly what I've managed to communicate that I want.

It doesn't matter... girls aren't built like guys, so ya gotta get rid of that.

It's not their fault that I am totally confused about what I want and therefore put out mixed signals and mushy boundaries.

There isn't ONE THING in the animal kingdom, not ONE THING in nature I'd ever consider FAIR. As a matter of fact, I'm not even sure who came up with the concept of FAIR... you want what you want, Mo...

Okay, I opened up my internet profiles and once again I have way too many hits. I need to figure out a way to deal with this that is sensible.

My mother makes folders for each guy. Some are 'active' folders, some are put to the side, labeled 'inactive.' When an active folder man moves into the circular file, she moves an inactive folder man to the active folder pile. She never has more than 4 men on 'active' status.

Then how do I keep myself from getting all dopamine drunk and having sex and/or starting a relationship with which ever one I do choose to date?

Limit yourself to three dates with each guy, and don't have sex with any of them. If you are interested in a guy beyond date 5... then make your intentions known.

Why am I dating?

Cuz I don't live near you for us to go out with each other. And I hope you know what I mean by that... not 'date' each other... just hang out and do girl stuff, cuz we're both single.

I am too broke to be dating. I should just stay home and work and save money by not getting my hair done. Right?

I think you are too Still Married to be dating seriously, that's for sure. What is up with the D? I personally think that is what you need to concentrate on... CLOSURE. Right now, you are firmly entrenched in LIMBO, and your 2bx is still too 'active' in your psyche for no other reason than you are still legally linked.

Seems to me anyway... let me know what you think.