its not all about financial security, though. its also about feeling loved and loving the person you are with. don't underestimate that.
its funny, when I found out about the affair one of the first things h said to me was that the reason I was upset was because of the standard of living I would lose. I was floored...it wasn't even on my mind at all. don't get me wrong, now I would say, yes, it is, but even now its not the most important thing. the most important thing to me was the love...losing it, letting it go, all of it. yes, I have a pretty nice life. yes it weighs heavily on my mind how I will live after all this is over. but honestly, I would have lived in a hovel with him...I would have done a lot of things, given up a lot of things. it was about him, about losing him, for me.
I know your wife and I are in very different places. obviously we are. but at the same time, don't assume its going to end up being about the lifestyle. and really, who wants someone who is only with you because of it?
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
