What my shrink told me about ending up with 'similar spouses/so's' is that it isn't that I am attracted to the same 'type' of people, or even that I purposely go after people that are so radically different than past SOs... the one constant between ALL partners/spouses... is ME.
Exactly! So, if you become more self-aware, differentiated and improve your functioning in various ways as a result you will simultaneously become a "better" partner AND have "better" partnerships and therefore "better" partners. For instance, I know just what I should do if I don't want to turn my next partner into a "bad boy" but I also understand my motivation for wanting to be with a "bad boy" so I need to figure out how to strike a happy middle ground.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
