what do I do if my wife keeps bringing up meeting to go over details of a D... Can I tell her I changed my mind? Or should I just keep stalling? I was told by the coach that I should not help her with the D at all. Maybe I should tell her I am standing for our marriage...?
You can stall, but this may frustrate her. I did like Jack and told Sweetheart I didn't want a divorce and thus I refused to help. I told him I would get my own lawyer--that pissed him off--and that I would contest.
He called me vindictive, said I only wanted his money and that he now hated me because of what I was doing. He did this as a threat. He told me that if I just did as he was asking he might come home someday, but I would ruin that chance if I stood my ground.
So what really happened when I stood my ground and contested?
9 July 2005: Divorce papers filed 24 August 2005: Divorce papers pulled
Most don't stop it that quickly and stopping the divorce didn't stop the affair or the crisis. The next May/June he was talking about lawyers again--but it was due to OW pressure. She offered to pay for the lawyer--with what $--the woman has none.
