GGG- What it means to me.

[MJontheMend]

What I continue to hear you say... is that you are lacking intimate connection, physical OR emotional. There are times when the physical connection can superficially satisfy you for a time... but eventually, as with GB (GP? GG? GH?)... your xBF... when you understand that there is no point being with the person other than having a pointless, meaningless yet sexual and perhaps even periodically mentally stimulating encounter or string of encounters (dating for the heck of it), you are left feeling even more unfilled and more isolated than if you had not started the 'dating for the heck of it' experience to begin with...

I agree with you on the isolation thing and the fact that it especially applies to females. The thing about GP was that he was well aware of this fact also. Maybe I haven't done a really good job describing our relationship. The man wore a phone headset constantly and he called me on average about twice a day and talked to me on average about 2 hours every day. He called me from the grocery store. He called me from the shower. He called to see if I made it home okay. He called to see if I was having fun at the party I went to in Chicago without him. However, he was somehow able to do this without projecting as being in any way "needy" so it wasn't a turn-off. Almost all his behavior was assertively adult masculine. It's like he was some sort of master female herder. The best I can describe it is that he psychologically rendered me "barefoot and pregnant" and he was absolutely upfront about the fact that that was basically his intention. For instance, he told me that he bought the phone headset "in case he met a girl like me." So, it's an understatement to say that I didn't feel isolated when I was dating him. Two of his exes are stalking him but they aren't stalking him in an angry "You lying bastard, I'm going to key your car." fashion like BF suggested. They're stalking him because it is so freakin' rare to meet a man who behaves like that these days. GP was a true romantic primitive.

So your bunny and your monkey get 'hurt' by insincerity and complete lack of genuine trust, your cow's milk supply becomes iffy because there is no farmer in sight, and your lioness... well... she becomes somewhat depressed, for there is seemingly no purpose to her hunting or protecting...

You're spot on in terms of the cow and the lioness but you gotta remember that my bunny and my monkey were actually in far worse shape when I was married. Also, I don't think that the men that I've dated have been any more "insincere" than me. I think that they've all given me pretty much exactly what I've managed to communicate that I want. It's not their fault that I am totally confused about what I want and therefore put out mixed signals and mushy boundaries.