Sounds to me like she still needs to get OM out of her system, but maybe she's working through it. It would have almost been better if this "relationship" with OM had completely imploded. This "what could have been" can be a real bugaboo. But eventually she'll realize that she's completely content with you.
Yeah, she needs to just figure it. I'm sure the repeated rejection she gets from him all the time will get old eventually, particularly if at some point I start to withdraw from her as time goes by. Not planning on doing that right now, but we both can't live like this forever. Every time I've pushed on the OM point it has turned out that they were already experiencing tension anyway, so it never really did a whole lot in my favor.
Originally Posted By: Just_Me
Don't know if you are reading too much. Sounds like she's enjoying her time with you. Just go with it and enjoy. My gut tells me that it's just a matter of time. I can't understand what the hold-up on committing to you is, but she'll get there. Can you just go with this for a while? Have you lowered your guard enough that she's not scared you'll reject her if she wants more with you?
She seems to enjoy it - She told me yesterday that the time we spent together out of town on Thur/Friday last week was a lot of fun. In theory I'm okay with the way things are for the time being, but I don't know if the dynamic will change significantly when I move, especially if I am closer to W (right now we're about 30mins away from each other).
I don't think there is really anything that would give her cause to believe I would push back if she wants more. We've not had any stress or tension between us at all in the last two months.
