Sox, Be careful. You want to reward H's helpful behavior, and shape it so that he's helping in the way that you need.
Does he need specific instructions? My W had to give me instruction recently on how to clean a bathtub, so that it met her standards. I now use a brush to clean the tub, and it looks better than when I used a sponge. I needed instruction.
She wants me to vacuum the hardwood floors instead of dustmopping them. I didn't know that dustmopping left dirt on the floor.
My W is more attuned to these things for whatever reason. She sometimes thinks that I'm "half-assing" it. It hurts my feelings when she says that, because I'm trying to be helpful in the way I know how. If she wants something done in a specific manner, she needs to give me specific instructions.
Communicate to your H in a way that shows appreciation for his sincere efforts, and give specific instruction so that he meets your expectations.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
