I think one common theme that comes across is how really detatching and moving on with your life is such a crucial thing to do. In finally letting go and freeing yourself from the sitch, you become focused on yourself and not on the WAS. When they see this, they will notice a different person from the one they left. Someone who is emotionally mature, settled, capable and who has a positive attitude to life. That kind of person is difficult to ignore. They are attractive, perhaps not enough to bring the WAS back in all cases. However, even if that does not happen, someone else will have noticed and be attracted to you and that offers exciting possibilities.
In fact, by that stage you may have reached the conclusion that the WAS can get stuffed!
As I have said elsewhere, many people don't get a shake up which makes them really examine their life and question what they want - a managed MLC if you like. Although this process is ugly and difficult, particularly if children are involved, it does present tremendous opportunities for personal growth and fulfilment. That has to be a good thing, don't you think?
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
