And BTW, I never did that to her. When I went out alone it was almost always over at a friends house playing poker or something & I always invited W to go along if she liked. If I did end up going out to nightclubs or bars she would have the same issues that I am having with her going. That's all I'm saying. I don't understand why it's OK for her and never was OK for me.
You are not the same people. She doesn't feel the same way about it as you do. It stinks, I agree but it's reality. Accept it, know it is what it is, and move on with YOUR life. Allow her the freedom to experience life. She may fail miserably, to the point of no return. But that will have been HER choice. The most important thing here is that YOU continue making the right choices.
It is far beyond my comprehension to understand why someone would rather go "barhopping" than be in a cozy home with family. I just don't get it. But I am called to love them anyway. Check out 1 Corinthians: 13 for the definition of Love.
So tell her what you need to tell her, but do it from a compassionate heart, from the heart of her maker, from a friendly source; not from the heart of the needy man that wants her back in his fold.
This sucks my friend. It's very very hard. I pray you be blessed with courage, strength, and the kind of faith that moves mountains.
Love,
COG
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