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[MaxP]

Trixi,

You should hopefully find that living somewhere else and having limited contact with your H will help remove some of the stress you have been under. It may not help with the emotional ups and downs in the short term, but they should improve - and there should be a few more ups too. It should also be helpful living somewhere new. Being away from the site of so much emotional history should be beneficial. That's something I haven't experienced myself.

I know what you mean about not being able to undersand how the WAS can discuss such emotional issues as separation as if they are perfectly natural events. I find it abnormal and slightly disturbing - they have either detached a long time ago or they must be emotionally dead inside. Surely? It's hard to understand how they can pull away so calmly and treat you like dirt having had such an emotional bond with you. You think, did you really know them? Was this side of them always there?

Personally, I would hold off on the change of job at the moment, at least until you feel settled in your new home. Once you are there you will be ready for the new challenge, rather than emotionally and physically drained. I was hit very hard when my new job started going badly wrong, the blow was almost as severe to my self esteem as the separation. Had this come at another time, things would be different. Still, a new job can be great in terms of boosting income, meeting new people, building self esteem and simply changing your environment.

From what you have said about yourself, you are an excellent catch and many people would be blessed to have you working for them. I am sure there will be loads of opportunities to really shine.

Get settled, feel good, enjoy yourself (there are some upsides to being on your own) and then go kick ass ...