I am replying to you message left to me on another post...
First off...initially I did feel guilty for not "seeing" my H's unhappiness...but I eventually realized that he didn't want me to see it...so no it wasn't my fault...maybe I could have been more aware of the subtle signs but I took him at face value...
At first too I felt I had been deceived...thinking he loved me when he didn't...or at least said he didn't...
It has been a long journey...but I can say that the man my H is today is still a man I love very much...much of what I loved about him...his sense of humor...his smile...his care and compassion...his patience...yes, these were things that eventually did return after he worked through his crisis...as I stated it was a long journey...and I think it was one needed for H (minus the OW as I don't think she needed to be factored in)...I think now he is becoming the person he was meant to be...and the good thing is I love him...I love him very much and and I would marry "this" H in a heartbeat if we were to have met first...
It is the H that was in crisis that I couldn't live with, understand, or deal with...it was pure HELL...but it was not just my own...we were all thrust into it...
