A personal journey through Karen's eyes

[Dom R]

I'm not disagreeing with you. I simply believe that the kind of person who could best choose and maintain a commitment to love (not in the "in love" sense) would be the kind of high-functioning individual I describe. If somebody is loving you in the verb sense their love will necessarily be associated with loving behavior which generally would be associated with functional behavior. I personally have no desire to be married to the guy who quits his job,goes on a weekend bender, comes home and kicks the dog while yelling "Where's my dinner!" but then says "Love ya, Babe!".

There's a big difference between [not highly 'functional', as you put it] vs Actively Anti-considerate.
The example you give, is of an actively inconsiderate person.

The majority of people probably fall "somewhere in the middle".

oTOH, I would probably feel very loved, maybe even in love, in a relationship with someone who was mostly like a very high functioning roommate but with whom I had great sex and exchanged affectionate gestures. Maybe you were just thinking that there wouldn't be any affectionate gestures in my scenario?

Nope. I just saw the emphasis more on "functional" rather than "showing love".

Maybe your "love language" is basically "acts of service", so you consider the two as almost synonymous. Other people differ in how they wish to recieve "love". Myself being one of them.
I personally dont care about someone "cleaning the house" for me. I can hire a maid for that.
(although cooking, is kinda an exception. i think its special to have someone cook food that I like for me.)
I'd rather have "quality time" together, than "acts of service".

So, "high functioning", as I think you mean it, doesnt matter that much, to me.
It matters to you. That's fine for you, and others. I just dont think it's a "universal relationship criteria".

You also may want to recognize, "this is what I want, but not what XXX wants"... in the event that you find someone who is "highly functional" for your sake... but would rather you do something different, for their own happiness.

Your happiness doesnt have to depend on the person sharing the same values as you in that area. It more depends on whether they choose to respect and do something about, your values, I'd say.