Isn't there an exercise in the Rebuilding book that talks about writing a letter to get some of the anger out?? Looks like you might be (accidentally) doing some of the work they suggested.
I completely understand how minimal contact can throw you into a tizzy. I feel so angry at how it appears my H is getting to go thru all of this unscathed. The Rebuilding book tried to say that if you could stack the emotions of the dumpee against the dumper, that the dumpee might have suffered worse because they started before us, dragged it on for a longer period of time and feel so guilty. Yeah. right. whatever. boo f'ing hoo. cry me a river.
So, is your life (physically) basically how it will be 5 months from now? Meaning- I need to move out of my house, the joint bank account will be closed, the joint credit card will be closed; there are a lot of things that will be very different in a few months and so this time period still feels sort of limbo'ish for me. Even though I know where we are headed, I am not physically there, so I still have some fear. Are you able to basically just focus on dealing with the emotional aspects of your life and not the physical practicalities?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
