Miss IC, we're not tired of hearing your stories... that's what this place is for.
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Maybe down the road there will come a time when he is [fragile]...now is NOT that time, and I've got to convince myself of that.
You don't have to convince yourself of this; you just have to ACT as if you believe it. You can't control your feelings-- they just arise from inside you. But you can control how you treat him, what you say, how you act. I think playing in the snow and then crying later with him is a very good way of handling this.
Make IC swear on a stack of hockey pucks that if he does need help or starts feeling "fragile," he will tell you, and until then, don't treat him as fragile. Just hold on to yourself.
I know that one of the things that's bothering you is that he WILL start to slip and HE WON'T TELL YOU, just as he didn't tell you about the cancer. SEE WHAT YOU CREATED, IC, BY NOT LEVELING WITH HER???
But if you can get him to assure you that he will not hold back in the future, then can you give him some room to be normal?
