As far as calling a truce....WTF? Why would you really want to do this? What have you done that really warrants calling a truce? From what I've read on here, you've been firm but gentle. You planted a seed in her mind that what she is doing is wrong. Wrong for your boundaries, wrong for your marriage. You've pretty much dealt with one of the hardest tasks...exposing whatever it is they had going on. It's early, you feel like sh!t, you've brought things to the front burner...let it simmer. By calling a truce, basically what you're doing is putting this pot on the back burner and for you and her to work this out, you're eventually going to have to re-open the lid on that pot and turn the heat up again.
Yep -- bingo.
You have nothing to call a truce about. And I was shocked to read this:
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and just agree that we disagree, and move on. I can't stop her from talking to the OM, or going out to dinner with other guys. She's free to do all that.
Your wife is "free" to carry on an affair, and go out to dinner with other men? Surely you meant to say "Honey, you are a grown woman, and you are free to do what you wish. But then I will have some decisions to make, because I am absolutely NOT going to live in an open marriage."
