"I think about this now and again. Not to trivialize, but I think it boils down to just that -- I just lost it."
I've brought this up before. It seems critical to me that you work on this issue with an IC. Sometimes it seems that you don't seem to really fully own the responsibility for the consequences of your actions on other people, and you don't seem to really hear her somehow. (This is what was going on with the overnight stuff for the girls, BTW.) Instead, you seem to often go into an attack/blame/tit-for-tat mode to excuse yourself and divert the attention from the real issue.
BTW, just something to consider... If you keep trying to tell her that the issues in your M are communication issues that you want to fix, and she doesn't agree that those are the issues, then it seems unlikely that she'd be willing to work on the M because you deny her concerns that made it worth leaving the M for her.
Regarding OM, trust you intuition, it will seldom be wrong.
