Advice regarding counseling

[Michael Mc C]

I think it's a good thing that you should pursue. IMO...

This seems to be the general consensus from folks on the board as well as friends and co-workers. I'm gun shy, I guess. After all this time wanting counseling she has finally agreed but more because she feels it will be a pre-requisite to the big D.

The one saving grace is that W has explicitly stated that she wants me to understand "where she is and why". If that's the case, then the C may insist that she needs to understand where I am and why as well as shedding some light on why she "feels" the marriage should end. Much better than me trying to convince her that this stuff is predictable, fixable, and far from unique.