I hope you meant a band concert!! Or is your D not that good?? LOL!
Glad your interactions have been positive. J~
I did mean band concert. Can you say sleep deprived? Actually we expected it to be bad because they just started playing in the fall. It turned out to be good and we (H and me) enjoyed ourselves.)
H called as soon as he left lastnight but I missed the call because my ringer was still turned off from the concert. Tried calling D's phone too, but she also had her ringer off. H left a message which I listened to 45 min. later telling me to be careful that it was slippery out. H knew I would be taking dogs out before bed. Could it be he still cares? I was shocked by the call. Sent him a text thanking him for the info and for taking us to the concert. As I said yesterday I expected to go in seperate cars.
H showed up at ice rink earlier than usual to start time with D10. H asked about dinner. I told him a couple options they could cook or order. They opted to order take out. I spent the evening finishing my shopping. Ds are all done. Picked up the i-pod for them to give H. I also picked up some cold weather gear for me to give him. He should appreciated it for the next football game on the 30th. Didn't talk to H much last night as I wasn't in a very good mood when I got home. He did call me on the way to work today and we talked for quite awhile. He knows I have some stressful days ahead of work and told me to make the most of it. He actually seemed to care. H also thanked me for some very minor thing that I did this morning. I really need to read the Love Language book. I bought it but haven't opened it yet.
Well, after catching up on your posts, especially the last two, it seems like things are slowly improving! H calling you to tell you to be careful out, calling you at work, thanking you for a minor thing. This is what my H did right before he began to turn around, he began to be more respectful of me like I was him, despite his alien journey he was on. Read the love language book, has some interesting insight on what people need and how good something simple you do for them makes them ecstatic but is unimportant for you.
Hang in there lizzy.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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Well, after catching up on your posts, especially the last two, it seems like things are slowly improving! H calling you to tell you to be careful out, calling you at work, thanking you for a minor thing. This is what my H did right before he began to turn around, he began to be more respectful of me like I was him, despite his alien journey he was on. Read the love language book, has some interesting insight on what people need and how good something simple you do for them makes them ecstatic but is unimportant for you.
Hang in there lizzy.
I hope you are right PM. I didn't hear from H the rest of the day until he called this evening to see if it was ok to stop by to get clothes for tomorrow. H actually spent more time with me while he was at the house than he did w/ the girls. We talked about my work, one of my friend's sick brothers, his work, Ds and buying new computers for the house after the first of the year. The computer plan was as if he would be part of the family and home still. I am very cautious because a week and a half ago he was saying he needed to find a place of his own. Trying to keep my expectations low, but feeling good about things.
He knows I have some stressful days ahead of work and told me to make the most of it. He actually seemed to care. H also thanked me for some very minor thing that I did this morning. I really need to read the Love Language book. I bought it but haven't opened it yet.
Hey Lizzy!!
You'll have to let me know what you think of the LL book - I bought a copy back in October and have read it front to back a few times. I'm honestly still not sure which LL is the most appropriate for my W, so I'm sort of using a mix and it seems to yield some results.
Hopefully you'll get some time over holidays to see how your H responds to various things.
He knows I have some stressful days ahead of work and told me to make the most of it. He actually seemed to care. H also thanked me for some very minor thing that I did this morning. I really need to read the Love Language book. I bought it but haven't opened it yet.
Hey Lizzy!!
You'll have to let me know what you think of the LL book - I bought a copy back in October and have read it front to back a few times. I'm honestly still not sure which LL is the most appropriate for my W, so I'm sort of using a mix and it seems to yield some results.
Hopefully you'll get some time over holidays to see how your H responds to various things.
Did he find a permanent place to live yet?
I plan to take the book to my parents this weekend. To bad I can't read it while I'm driving for three hours. H is staying here so it is the Ds and me. Anyway, I'm looking forward to the book as I have seen many good things about it here.
No H hasn't found a place yet. As far as I know he hasn't looked. H has been staying at the apt. of a friend who was kicked out by his wife.
H spent the evening w/ the Ds. H ended up taking them shopping for gifts for me. Something to look forward to. It was the Ds idea, but H told them he was planning on going tomorrow. H also decorated cookies w/ Ds tonight. They were finishing when I got home. It looked like they had fun, and I'm so happy about that.
Hi Lizzy, Sorry I haven't been keeping up with you. I started LL but put it down when H jammed it down my throat how "OVER" it is. I should probably pick it up again. I kind of though why focus on it right now when I'm not anywhere close to repairing my marriage...but maybe it will help in the process if I understand how to talk to him. Hope you have a safe drive and enjoy your weekend with your D's. J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
H spent the evening w/ the Ds. H ended up taking them shopping for gifts for me. Something to look forward to. It was the Ds idea, but H told them he was planning on going tomorrow. H also decorated cookies w/ Ds tonight. They were finishing when I got home. It looked like they had fun, and I'm so happy about that.
Awesome! My W has D this weekend, so I think she's planning on getting some shopping in too.
Sounds like your H is getting into the 'Christmas spirit', which is great. At least he is spending some time with your Ds and giving you some time to yourself
Hi Lizzy, Sorry I haven't been keeping up with you. I started LL but put it down when H jammed it down my throat how "OVER" it is. I should probably pick it up again. I kind of though why focus on it right now when I'm not anywhere close to repairing my marriage...but maybe it will help in the process if I understand how to talk to him. Hope you have a safe drive and enjoy your weekend with your D's. J~
Thanks Jenny. I have had a very busy week and haven't been able to check up on you much. I hope all is going well. Remember to focus on you and your kids over the next week. Remember your H is not really himself. My H has let up about it being over as I have eased up on the pushing. H still isn't willing to work on the R, but at least he isn't asking for a big D.
Yeah! I'm offically on vacation for two weeks. The only bad part is I won't have work to keep my mind off of the sitch. Looking forward to seeing my family and spending time w/ the Ds. H is staying here while Ds and I go to my parents for the weekend. Still working on setting low expectations for Christmas.
Something to look forward to. It was the Ds idea, but H told them he was planning on going tomorrow. H also decorated cookies w/ Ds tonight. They were finishing when I got home. It looked like they had fun, and I'm so happy about that.