My wife refuses counseling, so consider yourself lucky.
I have read other threads where one spouse was "divorce, divorce, divorce" all through counseling. You know the drill, "I want out NOW!" Meanwhile, the LBS continued to DB.
And the benefit of counseling was that the WAS had an "out." Counseling gave them a way to "save face," rather then grovel back on hands and knees. They could bring reconcilliation up (or let the counselor do so) without it appearing as if they have really changed their mind.
So I think it's a good thing that you should pursue. IMO...
