Now I have another problem. My wife is spending time with our kids with our single neighbor that I suspected of an EA. She denies the EA but most of our problems occurred after he moved in. She say's he is just a friend. Last week I made a big mistake and stopped over at her (our) house unannounced at about 11pm after calling her and not getting an answer. My kids were spending the night with freinds so I knew she was alone. I went in the lot behind his(the guy across the street) house to see if the two of them were together. He saw me and turned on a flood light. I went back to our house and rang the doorbell and she had just gotten out of the shower. I didn't tell her about spying but the neighbor told her the next day. She called me and confronted me about it expecting me to lie. I told her it was true and that I was sorry for doing it. I also told her I was concerned about her spending time with him and that it was not unusual for someone in my sitch to check up on their wife. But I promised it was the only time and that I would not do it again. She also did this to me once when i went to a friends about 2 months ago she drove by and called me to see why I wasn't there. So we had both gone there... Now she says she may consider going out with the neighbor because of what I've done. Then the next day she brought my kids over there to his house for dinner and hung out till 9pm at night. This guy is such and A hole!! I can't believe I used to be his friend at one time. Should I threaten him to stay away from my wife?? All this talk of dating and hanging out with other guys is stressing me out!! Part of me says to ignore it, the other part tells me to shut her out--don't talk to her anymore...I'm getting a headache just thinking about it.
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon
