Advice regarding counseling

[Michael Mc C]

All - just a new, temporary thread so I can try to get some input from everyone. I have posted this question on my "normal" thread but would like to see what information or advice I can receive separately.

My wife has agreed to counseling but she has made it clear that she still wants to seek a divorce. She is still involved with the OM (long distance). I have heard from some that it's worth a shot. My insurance will pay 100% of the cost for 8 sessions and, while we may end up needing more, I want to make the most of what we can get up front.

If we give counseling a shot, I want it to be under the best possible circumstances - i.e., with the OM there, not sure there is much benefit to the marriage (again, she wants out!)

I have read sitches of others (Rob1231 and Frank_D) whose spouses still wanted D but the OM was no longer around (I think).

Does anyone have an opinion on this? I know that if we go we would need to set some goals. My goal, of course, is to rebuild the marriage. W's goal will be to work through the D as amicably as possible.

Is marriage counseling worthwhile if one spouse wants out and has plainly stated they don't want to fix the marriage? Especially if they have "salvation" waiting in the wings?

Thanks,
Michael