Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[SirPrizeMe]

Interesting idea, Balto, But....
I moved out because she was still talking to OM. She continues with OM to this day. I'm not moving back in. I drew a line. Maybe it was a bad move (Ultimatims and all) but I made it a long time ago. I drew the line. I'm not backing up now.

She changed the locks. Fine. It's no longer my house. Then it is no longer my mortgage, either!

We really (REALLY) cannot afford this house. She doesn't need to agree. The math is plain. Part of our problem is that I've deferred to her financial decisions over the past 16 months and we are now $25,000 in debt. This is not a discussion any longer. We're selling the house. We cannot afford it. Unless she gets a job, quick, we're selling it because I'm not going to pay for it anymore. And I'm not moving into it.

She locked me out and I'm going to continue to pay the mortgage? Seriously? Um.... No.

I don't think she has yet realized what her decisions and choices mean. She will, shortly.

I love her and want her to come back but I will not finance her affair; I will not appease her while she continues to carry on with that other man. I will not continue to cover up her financial mess. She can have her other man if she wants him, but I won't help her do it.