Last night I went to a birthday party and there was a bellydancer hired. (Nothing too risque'.) Made me think of you; maybe that's your next career
The gal got some people from the party to try it and I have to say I SOOOO admired that they would try in front of the 12 of us. And everyone pretty much knew eachother. So, I really think that is AWESOME that you got up there in your situation.
Damn, I guess we aren't "twins" anymore
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
wow Nikki! that is awesome! you've got so much courage now! that is great!
I know what you mean by getting upset, I do the same thing when things don't go right and I feel like I always screw up or do something wrong, or it just doesn't ever work. We need to learn to let things go, it's just how many minutes out of our millions in our life and a week from now we wouldn't even think about it again.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Glad your PMA is back up. Best to try not to talk to your Dad about you sitch as givin his he can't be of much help and that in itself would bring you down.
Things are really looking good for you either way as you have done such a great job at GAl and have alot on your plate in that department.
Just remember Baby steps.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Thanks all for posting and for those who've emailed to check on me too. Doing fine! Just extreeeemely busy w/work and Christmas stuff. Will post an update soon, just wanted to jump in and say I'm still alive. (and doing well, just busy as heck)
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Nikki, Glad the H is giving you the "run downs", I am with you on the creepy part. Maybe just strange because of not knowing for so long, just assuming. W makes it a point to tell me where she was at, only when OM is not involved which seems to be more lately. Keep up the growth and have a wonderful holiday season filled with lots of joy.
H (that STILL looks funny to me, I keep feeling like I'm accidentally posting TO my H)
Anyway... um dance in front of people without extreme pressure from my instructor? I don't think so!!
Good advice on the smiling, it helps a lot.
trixi How fun!! It's kinda funny actually, people have this image of bellydancing as something really risque or practically stripper-ish and it's SO not. It was originally a dance done by and for women specifically to help get their abdominal and back muscles ready for child birth... men weren't even supposed to watch it!
Now that I've done it it's kinda funny, I spend more time watching the movements and trying to figure out the "how to" far more than even seeing how the dance overall looks (eventually I assume you must get back to the overall "look" so you can put a dance together).
haha next career? Ohh I don't think so!! It's fun but I am just NOT a natural dancer whatsoever.
You didn't try it?? Awww too bad! It's fun. Actually it's easier to get up with total strangers who have no idea what they're doing either... it was tougher getting up in front of my mom and a friend!
ST Thanks!!
Ohh yeah, need to work on letting things go - especially stuff that's totally not in my control and/or not my fault. Maybe we can make a pact to work on that together!
jak Thank you! Agreed, I really shouldn't talk to my dad about it. Made the mistake of opening up too much to my mom tonight too when she wanted to know Christmas plans.. uugh. Good news was I caught things getting out of control this time before they got bad - so I just said "Hey I can't talk to you about this anymore, I can see it's not headed a good direction." Worked pretty well.. in the past it got to the point of me practically in tears or yelling and Mom was furious with H or frustrated with me. Hey.. did I just set and enforce a (dare I say it) BOUNDARY??? Woo hoo!!
--------------- Doing pretty good here. Finally got the tree up (waiting for ornaments but hey, it's progress). Stockings are up... mantle decorated.. it really is nice having all that done. Shopping is almost done and final list is ready - and I even have stuff wrapped, yay!! Felt good to get all that done.
I have this totally cheesy tree that my great-great-grandparents left to me when I was a little girl. It's made out of egg cartons and glitter, and some lights that are ancient (can't believe they still work!). But I set it up tonight along with the letter that they sent when they gave it to me (I was only 3) - I just love it!!! I can stare at it for hours. Funny enough in the letter they say that's why they gave it to me - because I'd just stare at it when I was a baby. Kinda neat memory, and a tradition that's all "mine" and always will be. For some reason that meant a lot more to me than usual this year.
Work is killing me again this week but not AS bad as last week and should ease up by Friday..whew, thank goodness.
Gotta run for tonight... but thanks again!!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Good news was I caught things getting out of control this time before they got bad - so I just said "Hey I can't talk to you about this anymore, I can see it's not headed a good direction." Worked pretty well.. in the past it got to the point of me practically in tears or yelling and Mom was furious with H or frustrated with me.
Ok, now I think we are twins again. I have found that I am constantly having to "defend" myself against my mother. I think I will borrow your line. Don't know if my mom will respect it, but it's worth a shot. My mother, for some reason, seems to always be contrary to whatever I say. Very frustrating.
That's really sweet about the egg-carton tree. Good for you for making new traditions. Sounds like you continue to do great!
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
