After I confronted my H about his affair, and even after it ended because apparently OW wasn't interested in being in a contentious relationship, my H kept trying to blame his affair on me. This went on for weeks. He kept saying that I said hurtful things to him through the years of our marriage. So I took the emails that I had from him to her and I copied the part where he said he loved her and that marrying me was a mistake. And I said to him, "Hurtful words, you want to see hurtful words?" And I handed him a piece of paper on which I had copied his words (so he knew I had the original emails, and he wasn't getting them back). And he read his own words. After that I didn't hear about how I caused his affair with my hurtful words.
