I've been putting up with this EA for almost two years
WHOA! This jumped out at me. Am I the only one who let this factoid about the length of the EA slide by?
An EA for TWO YEARS, and she says there's been no physical contact??? No effing way! You cannot sustain that level of intimacy, anticipation, heavy flirting, sexy talk for that long without being driven to consummate the R. At least that was my experience. Am I missing something (I do from time to time)? She has claimed it's only an emotional affair? I doubt it--
Also my take on the dinner with the dentist thing is that he is only a friend, but by going out to dinner with him, she can "prove" that she has male friends in whom she has no romantic interest. Remember she said, "am I not supposed to have any friends?" So this is her way of proving that she can be friends with a guy and socialize with him and tell Bomb and it will be all above board.
Bomb, listen to choc and NOP.
And everyone is right: you have to decide what you will put up with. Remember you can't make her do anything. You can apply pressure by stating what you will and won't put up with, but ultimately the decision is hers.
