JM, I understand your concern. DNQ is looking for that center. He may end up overdoing it a bit at first. There was a lot of hard feelings between the two of them and, while he cannot buy her affections nor should he, he is blessed enough financially to show that he is not hoarding the money (although I feel for him how she blew through 100k) and that she is more important to him than money. The fact is, DNQ going out of his way to help her was worth so much more than any money he gave her. He was there for her when she needed him, test or not on her part.

JM, I am not thinking you are wrong at all. In most cases, the spouses have to learn the hard way that they chose to be out of the M and with that there are consequences. In this respect, only time will tell, the results of his actions. I really do not think it is directly about the money but who knows.

DNQ, I love your last paragraph! I am sorry though you cannot wish her a happy birthday and I am pulling for you that this is temporary.


Me:56, W:51
D:26,S:24,S:22
Married:18
Bomb 9/27/06
Separated 11/27/06
Divorced 10/6/08
Leaving it up to God