I get it. But at this point, if I can "buy" civility, so be it. I have larger things in mind, like getting her to drop the temp. restraining order before we have to spend $20k over the next thirty days on attorney fees to go to trial. If I have to spend $2,000 - $4,000 to get her to see things a bit differently, it's a good investment. It seems to be having some effect as far as I can see.
Her budget? Not my concern. I'm providing her what I THINK is appropriate. I am under a court order to provide NO support, simply because my attorney is better than hers and being self-employed, I can make the numbers benefit my position. My goal (you will all say "my manipulation") is to provide for her at a bare minimum, let the court acknowledge that I'm not letting her or my kids twist in the wind, but give her enough to hope that she can grateful.
I know I cannot purchase her affection, but at the same time, by giving her certain things it helps my kids, lessens her stress, and gives her fewer reasons to hate me.
Regarding my SS; yes; whatever it takes. He is a joy that I cannot explain, and I absolutely KNOW that he needs me in his life. Whatever it takes. But guess what.... I actually think she is doing this for no other reason than she realizes he is better off being with me than not being with me, and that is encouraging.
I love this woman. Yet today is her birthday, and I can't even call to wish her a happy B-day. Frustrating, but I view it as temporary.
