OK. So, I'm trying to help D11 with her homework tonight and I could tell something was really bothering her (she was with ex most of last week until today). I asked what was wrong and it eventually came out that ex was not helping her at all with homework last night. She also says that OM was over for dinner with all the relatives (her brother, parents, cousins, etc.) Both of my daughters had specifically requested that he not come over for dinner. Then they all go out cross country skiing. If it's is possible for two young girls to be really pissed, they were.
This situation is beyond messed up and I basically don't care what ex does anymore, but it just seems to be extremely hard on the kids. I told D11 tonight that it is none of my business what ex and her new friend do. I just want to know what is bothering her so I can help her deal with it. It's so screwed up. She does seem like she is trying to force this new relationship on the kids and (I'm assuming) her family. She is very close with her parents and they were a big part of our marital problems.
I don't need to understand her, but I'm still trying to understand the situation a little better. I've read in the MLC postings that the severe MLCer can't look their spouse in the eyes. My sitch is even a little worse in that there is absolutely no contact. Every time she crosses a boundary (a legitimate one) with the kids, I remind her and the contact grows even more infrequent. I've also read that they will eventually have an "awakening". Don't know when or if this will happen. It just seems so odd that ex is almost the complete opposite of what she was pre D/separation.
Apart from that, my life is improving. The GAL thing is getting better. Lots of trips to the gym. Lots of home remodeling.
