I think the outcome depends upon the reason the A existed. My H thought I didn't love him anymore it transpired. My reaction showed him I did. If I hadn't reacted strongly I think that would have confirmed to him that I didn't care anymore. It
I found this interesting. This was the case in our marriage, too -- my "don'tgiveashitness" in the face of her non-existent sex drive had led my wife to believe that I didn't care about her anymore. My STRONG reaction to her affair showed her otherwise, and she told me as much afterward.
Choc.
Yes. The first law of fence-tending is tending your own boundaries.
