Lots of good stuff I wish I had thought of, Atlas. One thing, what would baby steps from your W look like? You still love her, otherwise you wouldn't be agonizing over this. My suggestion is to make a list of things that would indicate that she truly is making strides towards being a person a sane man would want to be involved in and look at them periodically so that if she starts taking those steps, you'll notice.
Other question/point: How screwed would you be if you did the agreement that you were talking about but put the D on hold? She's scared as much as you are. Let's assume she's not playing a game. She means it when she says that she wants back in your life. Would extending that bit of trust to her help her turn back towards you?
I don't know, she's all over the place, but just something to think of.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
