If you could not make love to them there would be a bounty on them.
W called today. D6 was sick with a cold but W really wanted to call about "the house". She made an offer. She was excited. She asked if the offer was a good one.
It was and I said so. Then she asked what did I think of the house. I asked what did she mean. She thought I went to see it! I said I did not and I did not record the address. Well, she made me get a piece of paper and told me how to get there!
She so wants to know she is doing well here. This is a big deal for her. Never bought a house alone in her life.
So I will go look.
I called her tonight to ask about the kids and after talking to them she got on the phone and sounded down. The builder made a counter $10,000 more than her offer. I reminded her the house has been open for almost a year and that she should counter back. That got her to feeling better. How many offers do you make, she asked. As many as it takes I said.
So my input is so important now. Makes me ill but it is okay.
Better she is like this than the alternative. She is trusting me again (a little bit) and that is good. And I have no need to *control* so all this is okay with me.
No, I don't expect her to turn around as far as the M is concerned. And as I have written before, I believe I am ready for a different future.
But as so many of you have pointed out, better to have a good R with xW than a bad one. I owe that to my kids and the woman I once shared my love with.
