Can't quite get to a level of acceptance and complete commitment.
I struggled with this and it does come up and bite me again from time to time. I don't have athread with my sitch on it really although if you look at my early posts you will see why I came to the boards - it was 11 months post reconciliation.
My email is in my profile if you want to email me.
Can I ask - did you think I was a guy when I posted those comments earlier?
I think the outcome depends upon the reason the A existed. My H thought I didn't love him anymore it transpired. My reaction showed him I did. If I hadn't reacted strongly I think that would have confirmed to him that I didn't care anymore. It was hairy for a while. One particular week was awful. But compared to what a lot of people on these boards put up with it was short lived.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
