Fish and Cat - thanks for your comments - Fish so sorry to hear your sit. not going well either right now - its amazing when you come here how many people are dealing with their own pain and before I came here you think nobody understands. I will play it cool for the sake of my D. Cat - I did send H brief email asking him very nicely to put Ds interest first and wait until after Div. for her to meet OW.He does not reply because he is denying and lying about the A due to court. Have no idea if I got through. The crazy thing about our Div here in NY is you have to prove grounds and you can only div. for 4 reason - abandonment, abuse, adultery, and everything else falls into "cruel and inhumane treatment". So bec I would not file adultery he is suing me for cruel and inhumane treat. bec that is the only category he can ask for a D in - so he has lied to make up grounds saying I was verbally abusive, denied him sex, would not discuss R which are all lies. Our rel. breakdown was non communication and ended with his A. So he has chosen to lie about affair to make himself look good bec hes afraid I will contest div - which I wont.
