sgc and Iwb your both right - I have to put us first - me and my D. Weekends are espec. hard I imagine them together on a Sat night - what are they doing and then torture myself wondering what kind of sex they have and are they in love. It does drive me nuts. Iwb - I do keep repeating " its his mess" to myself and its true it does help. I want you to know that one line you wrote that I could spend an hour crying or passing it by playing with my daughter really hit home. I have really been ignoring her and I used to love being a mom - I guess my H made me feel that what I have done for 6 yrs meant nothing because when he left he told me I should have returned to work a long time ago and he resented that I was a stay at home mom for 6 yrs. My D is 6 yrs old and in all that time he never once complained about money or asked me to work - which I would have been glad to help out - I thought its what he wanted for his D too so I kept staying home with her. I was planning on going back this yr anyway. Its all because hes involved with a coworker and so shes the opposite of me.My D and I started last night to get back to doing special things together becuase of what you said - Thankyou - it does take your mind off of things. I have gotten a job that starts in Jan so I know when I am out of the house too meeting new people and just keeping busy as a single mom it will help. I have not contacted H and will not - only about visitation - whatever happens - happens - its out of my hands. Thankyou all - will try to keep this attitude up
