H never came back from Iraq

[MichelleLT]

Well, if all goes as H has planned, he leaves today for Europe to spend the next 3 weeks with OW. He almost didn't go because he has no way to pay for it, but ended up putting it all on credit to make this grand gesture to her. From what my SIL said, he has everything bought and renewed his passport.

This will be, by far, the most time they have ever spent together. As much as it hurts me that he's spending all this money on her, I just keep telling myself he's desperate to make it work. I think he's trying to prove to himself that if he just finds the right person he can live happily ever after. Of course, people aren't perfect and all those things OW does that he was complaining about that night he was drinking will be even more annoying when he's stuck with her for a few weeks.

I secretly hope of course (or not so secretly) that reality smacks him upside the head and it's a complete disaster. My fantasy is that he finds out OW has a BF in Manchester. In reality, I know its far more likely that they will stay "together" because they are both desperately afraid to be alone.

One positive to the whole situation is that the tension has already eased with my in-laws since there are no worries that if I'm down at their house H might randomly show up. My SIL and MIL both called me this weekend to talk about getting together. My SIL's birthday is the 20th and they're gonna do a big dinner for her the 23rd. My in-laws also invited me over for Christmas Eve. I think my MIL is extremely hurt that H is not spending the holidays with them since last Christmas was our first one together as a family in a couple years because of his deployment.

If nothing else, I expect reality will set in around tax time. H hasn't done his own taxes in 6 years. I started doing them after we'd been dating for a year because he's absolutely horrible at it. I bet he'll miss me then! Ironically his biological father is a CPA. H obviously didn't take after him in that (although he's shaping up to take after him relationship-wise since he's divorced 3/4 times and cheated on my MIL a bunch of times and even got his secretary pregnant).

Otherwise, just working a bunch. Retail around the holidays is madness and I'm working a lot of long days right now. But it keeps me busy and I like my job so I can put up with a few obnoxious customers.